Sex and the Path of Holiness
Because weâve spent a good deal of time here discussing the harmful effects of a shame-based purity culture that treats people who have had sex before marriage as âdamaged goodsâ by comparing them to polluted water or chewed-up gum (see â Do Christians Idolize Virginity? â and â Elizabeth Smart, Human Trafficking, and Purity Culture â), some have wrongly concluded that I donât value saving sex for marriage. This is ironic, given the fact that I waited until I was married to have sex and have been known to shout at the TV when my favorite dramas take it for granted that characters attracted to one another with sleep together after the first date. Just the other day, a reader left a comment that began, âI know youâre against sexual purity and allâ¦â which I confess kinda made me want to bang my head against the dining room table. (Fortunately, there was a bowl of Honey Nut Spins in the way and I didnât want to ruin my delicious off-brand breakfast.) Perhaps the reader got this ide
3:47 pm • 17 June 2013 • 13 notes
“Jesus is God’s way of refusing to give up on his dream for the world.”
— Rob Bell, Velvet Elvis, pg. 154
2:02 pm • 17 June 2013 • 7 notes
Josephine the Singer: josiahd: mousesinger: brainstatic: Dan Savage honestly bores me...
Dan Savage honestly bores me because he’s one of those guys who refuses to examine his own neuroses and instead pretends they’re some profound philosophy. Like, maybe consider that your desire to cheat is a problem you have and not proof that…
1:19 pm • 17 June 2013 • 39 notes
OMG I can’t believe I forgot to include the Great Divorce…I read that last spring and it was seriously one of the most beautiful books I’ve ever read. It made me especially proud that CS Lewis was a fellow Anglican!
1:08 pm • 17 June 2013 • 2 notes
Dan Savage: Why Monogamy Is Ridiculous
http://bigthink.com The idea that one instance of infidelity should ruin a relationship is a newâand misguidedânotion. “We need to talk about monogamy the wa…
Dan Savage is like a train-wreck for me.
I disagree with almost everything he says (re: sex, marriage, LGBT people, etc), but I absolutely love hearing what he has to say. I don’t know.
Anywho, here he offers his opinion that monogamy is ridiculous. He seems to confuse monogamy with ONLY finding your mate attractive and wanting to be with said mate. I’ve never, ever heard that definition of monogamy. Monogamy isn’t turning off attractions and carnal desires, it’s (from a Christian point of view at least) resisting acting on those attractions and desires. It’s “foreswearing all others” for the sake of the person you marry, even when you REALLY REALLY want to foreswear the one you’re with.
The problem, though, is that no one is entitled to ‘variety’ or to having every sexual need met in a relationship. I actually think we would agree on that point, but we resolve the issue different. He says it’s ok, then, to go out and find that variety and have that need met. I say that one must “suffer” (if you can call it suffering…I don’t think you can) with not having that need met or the desire fulfilled.
11:30 am • 17 June 2013 • 7 notes
I kinda want to make this my summer of CS Lewis
And read as much of his stuff as possible.
I’ve read Mere Christianity and the Screwtape Letters, and I’ve got the Four Loves…so, let’s see how far through his works I can get!
1:29 am • 17 June 2013 • 6 notes
“From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked.”
Confession: For the first time in my life, I think I’m beginning to actually understand what this verse means.
1:23 am • 17 June 2013 • 4 notes
You guys should get blabbr
Because I want to chat with ALL OF YOU
I have Babblr! How does it work?! Talk to me!
What is this Babblr of which you speak?
10:39 pm • 16 June 2013 • 8 notes